There are certain dates we'll just never forget. Dates when everything changed; that mark a new reality; that seem to require some type of observance. 9/11 is one such date, forever seared in our American consciousness as the moment this generation lost its national innocence along with so many precious souls.
Of course there are personal anniversaries too. Some (like birthdays and wedding anniversaries) are celebrated, while others are more difficult to get through. I'm thinking of anniversaries of a loved one's death, a scary diagnosis, a difficult surgery with a long recuperation or uncertain outcome, or a heartbreaking separation. Anytime we sustain a life-altering loss, we tend to note the passage of time since that day and calendar our journey in its wake.
As I approach the third anniversary of David's death on July 24th, I think about what happened that day and how much I miss him, and also about what I've learned since then. I offer the following tips in the hope that they might ease your burden and also inspire you to think of your own ideas.
Essays on Grief Resilience