From time to time I will be reviewing books and DVDs published by Hay House Publishing. The following is the first in this series.
You Can Trust Your Life
Louise Hay & Cheryl Richardson
Is happiness a choice? Can I learn to love myself without being selfish? Do positive thoughts actually improve our experience?
In this 4 DVD set recorded live in London, well-known authors and teachers Cheryl Richardson and Louise Hay help us consider these and other core questions in a weekend seminar for spiritual growth. They present strategies to enhance our lives and dissolve old habits that no longer serve us. We are virtual attendees, joining the audience without the hassle and expense of travel.
As if we had just dropped in for a conversation among friends, Cheryl and Louise openly explain the value and techniques of mindfulness, self-acceptance, affirmations, and forgiveness that are especially useful tools for anyone going through tough times. Using examples provided by both audience members and their own lives, they illustrate clearly (and with disarming candor) the fundamentals of happiness that are possible for everyone. Notably, Cheryl also identifies psychotherapy as another important tool and helps the audience understand when it may be useful to get professional help.
The concept of training our brains to be more positive was intriguing to me as a parent, grandparent and as a psychotherapist.
“Our thoughts are the rules we begin to live by,” stated Louise. “How you start your day is how you live your day, and how you live your day is how you live your life.” These thoughts resonated deeply.
Creating a positive environment seemed increasingly feasible and worth trying, so I combined suggested affirmations with my own thoughts and shared them with my twin 10-year-old grandsons who are my breakfast buddies three mornings a week. When they seemed confused about saying something that might feel false, I explained Louise’s idea that in stating how we’d like to feel we are planting the seeds of our future growth.
The boys enjoyed their introduction to supportive affirmation, and quickly selected their favorite slogans, including “I remember everything I need to know when I need to know it,” and “This is going to be an exceptionally good day.” I personally like “I have plenty of time to do everything I want to do,” and “I allow myself to do my good work in the world even though I’m not perfect.” We wrote the sayings on index cards and placed them in a basket on the table, agreeing to make them part of our morning ritual. The atmosphere in the room felt happy, relaxed, and open. What a wonderful way to start the day!
Cheryl and Louise utilize what they call mirror work throughout the seminar, encouraging us to love ourselves unconditionally instead of being typically critical. At first looking into a mirror and repeating “I love you; I really love you,” felt ridiculous. To counteract this, Louise suggests thinking of yourself as a very young child; maybe 3 or 4 years old. She calls this person The Child Within, and surely he or she exists in all of us. It became much easier to think of that child lovingly and to understand how the person in the mirror can become a friend rather than an enemy. Louise explains the world becomes less scary when you build a relationship with yourself and you always have your back.
Of particular interest to me was the discussion and demonstration of tapping or Emotional Freedom Technique. Over the past year I have found EFT useful myself and with certain therapy clients. Cheryl and Louise’s validation of this energy work felt meaningful and encouraging as I continue to pursue healing approaches following trauma and loss.
I highly recommend this DVD set to anyone seeking creative yet simple tools to enrich their life experience. For those in challenging circumstances, it provides a coping structure and might even reduce isolation. I looked at 85-year-old Louise, who appears classy, lively, and elegant. She alludes to times of hardship and struggle, so I know she must have endured difficulty in her life; yet she seems to embody resilience. If she can do it; so can I.
To purchase this DVD set, click here: http://www.hayhouse.com/details.php?id=7426
FTC Disclosure: I received this DVD set for free from Hay House Publishing for this review. The opinions expressed are unbiased and reflect my honest judgment of the product.
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