We always talk about the importance of self care, especially when you're going through a difficult time. It doesn't really matter the exact nature of the problem; unwelcome change means a new (unfortunate) situation has arrived and the old (preferred) situation is gone. This is hard to accept and adapt to, and much of my work with clients centers around these two facets.
Finding or creating meaning in the new situation is also helpful, as you try to bring some kind of order to what may seem like pure chaos. Sometimes this means exploring your religious or spiritual beliefs relating to what happened, and other times this facet helps you identify new strengths that weren't there before or ways in which you've grown in the process.
The 4th facet, Replenishing, is perhaps the most useful throughout your lifetime. And it's especially important in the early days of experiencing loss, while working on accepting and adapting, and as you identify the meaning of your journey in a larger context. This is the time to bring self care front and center.
I teach how to create your own personal replenisher list during sessions with clients and at many speaking engagements. You can access a checklist that walks you through the Personal Replenisher process here.
I also found a lovely graphic that organizes various types of self care into categories, and gives several examples of each. I love this because it helps us all visualize how we might replenish ourselves without reading a lot of text. You can find the Types of Self Care graphic here (from Healing the Sacred).
I hope these two ideas help you jump-start your healing in some simple and enjoyable ways. Let me know how you're doing and also send along any other self-care reminders you've found useful!
Wishing you peace and healing,
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